Wednesday, January 16, 2013

....About Our Future Choices.

There becomes a time as we age when we have to pause and contemplate the end part of our lives.  We have no control over it, but choices we make today do affect the direction we take in the future.  With both of us heading towards our mid-sixties, we asked each other the question: "Is the life we are living together at present the life we wish to continue living through our retirement years?"

In our present "together" life, we have tied ourselves down with rescuing, fostering, and adopting dogs.  We stay within a number of dogs that we can just manage to afford but little is left for travel, luxuries, nice furniture, quiet time together, and all the other joys retirement will make time to enjoy.  So what do we do to be sure we have the most enjoyable life together as possible for as long as we can?

Ralph asked me, "Are you happy as things are right now?  You know that with all our dogs, we will never be doing a lot of traveling, going out to eat, having nice furniture, and even getting to socialize in enjoyable clubs and groups as many older folks do.  Is this enough for you?"

Of course, instead of answering, I asked the same question of him to which he quickly replied, "I am very happy doing exactly what we are doing and I hope to do it for just as long as we are able."  That was my answer also, but I wanted him to say it first to be very sure I was not pushing my ideas on him since I am the bossy  So I let him know that his words held the same beliefs as mine.

Within a few days of this discussion, we got a call about a sheltie who may need a home.  Nothing is set in stone at this point but the coolest part of this is that we are both on the same page in our lives and it was very easy to say that "yes, we will accept your sheltie if all works out and he fits into our household".  In two weeks we might have a new member to our family...or maybe not, but one thing I know is that Ralph and I are joyously committed to doing just what we are already doing.  There is something very comforting about that.

Take care,



r_weeks said...

You and Ralph...what a team!!!! Keep us updated on the possibility of the sheltie coming to The Vose Household.

Denise said...

Love to hear that you may have a new arrival...and if this little one doesn't work out my guess is there will be another in your near future.
This is a question I ask myself often, and though I am MUCH younger than you, I will be 50 in February. Some things need to change, but alot of my life I really LOVE and could do forever. Thanks for making me think about this this afternoon.